Happy three year anniversary, SuperBetter! (and here’s what’s next…)

We’re thrilled that three years after launching our first prototype, SuperBetter has helped nearly half a million players — and the game remains 100% free online.

If you’re playing SuperBetter online, hopefully you’ve noticed that we’ve celebrated our anniversary by polishing up the website and making some improvements! You’ll notice a smoother experience everywhere from your To Do list to your Allies dashboard.

We’re also just a few weeks away from an iOS update and our first ever Android app.

Although we’re not a full-time team working on the product anymore, we love SuperBetter, and we’ve seen it change countless lives. That’s why we continue to support it — with help from a clinical trial research grant from the NIH, so we can continue to work with scientists and health care practitioners to bring SuperBetter to as many people as possible.

So keep activating those power-ups and battling those bad guys! After all, it looks like there’s an epic win in your future…


Dear SuperBetter Players,

You may have seen a few more bugs and errors lately across SuperBetter and are thinking What is going on?! We empathize with you and want to let all our awesome players and fans know what is going on. We are currently looking to transition SuperBetter to a new home, where players can continue on their path to getting SUPERBETTER. We are in talks with a few different allies and hope to have good news to share in the coming weeks. But in the meantime, we expect some bumps and possible disruption along the way.

For now, the site in its current form will stay up through the end of March. If you’re currently playing your way through a Power Pack, or on your way to an epic win, keep going! There’s still a ton of resilience you can build between now and March 31.

Because there maybe a disruption in the site (and app) availability after March 31, you may want to take some screenshots of your secret headquarters now, or make a list of your favorite power-ups and bad guys, so you continue to have resources for your SuperBetter journey.

And in the meantime, thanks for your patience with the bugs — and look for some updates soon.

– The SuperBetter Labs Team

Why I Love Working at SuperBetter: the Resilience of Silliness

What did your last remote meeting look like?

Here’s oursand it’s just one of the many reasons why I love working at SuperBetter.

At SuperBetter, Resilience, play, and game fulness aren’t just concepts that we promote. They’re truths that we live as a business and as individuals. When communication turns strained, when the future looks dark and unknown, or when we’ve got to push through a crunch-time challenge, we return to the basics of Resilience.

  • We spread Social Resilience by giving hugs and sharing our gratitude for what each one of us does each day and by awarding each other Achievements in the game. We know that a dose of silliness can do wonders for social connection and creativity.
  • We tend to Emotional Resilience by expressing our needs, excitements, and concerns openly. We shift out of negative thinking and into positive thinking using Power-ups, gratitude, and realistic optimism. We laugh. We don’t take ourselves too seriously.
  • We activate Mental Resilience by practicing mindfulness, staying curious, and making our current challenge as fun as possible how can we turn this rough patch into an exciting challenge? How can we stay present with what’s happening rather than jumping to conclusions?
  • And we strengthen our Physical Resilience up by sharing healthy meals, challenging each other to Power-ups and Quests, and going on fun adventures together.

We do these things because Resilience isn’t something that we either have or we don’t it’s a practice. It’s made up of the little things we do each day that make us laugh, foster a sense of connection, activate positivity, and get our hearts going. Those little things add up to greater health, pleasure, strength and flexibility—which sounds pretty good to us.

What one little thing you do that makes you smile, laugh, feel good, or feel strong? Post it in the comments below then make it a Power-up in the game!


A Scavenger Hunt SuperBetter Style

Heroes prepare for the hunt!

This year a component of the Compassion Games: Survival of the Kindest challenge is a SuperBetter Scavenger Hunt. The Games will use the SuperBetter platform to suggest Quests and Power-ups to those who add superbetter@compassiongames.org as an Ally during this month-long event, running from September 21-October 21, 2012.

Interested? Invite superbetter@compassiongames.org to be an Ally then await your first mission!

You’ll receive suggestions for Quests and Powers-ups to help you reach your personal Epic Win and also be a part of something larger. The Compassion Games seek to create a culture of compassion, kindness, and justice. Your participation will help them reach their Epic Win. Dare we say it’s a Win-Win situation?

Check out the Scavenger Hunt: SuperBetter page for more information, and be sure to explore the rest of the Compassion Games: Survival of the Kindest website to learn more about this awesome event!

Hero Training: Playing to the Goal

In this series of posts, Rowan, aka All-Star Courtney, gives players the inside scoop on embracing the playful nature of SuperBetter. She will discuss topics such as creating your secret identity, how to transform your daily activities into a roleplaying adventure, and crafting the story of your epic journey. Look for the next post in a couple weeks!

Rowan’s Introduction: The Fun of Being a Hero


Hi there, heroes! Hope all of you out there are doing well and owning both your lives: the mild mannered every day you and the hero you. It is that duality that we’re going to talk about today. SuperBetter is a fantastic tool to overcome so many different things. It takes tough issues, both emotional (such as depression or anxiety) and physical (such as getting fit or an ongoing illness) and turns them into a game to win.

So, what is the point of this series? These posts are here to discuss ideas on how to make your SuperBetter experience more game-based and interactive. When someone creates their own world of reality, they have the full ability to grow within it. I started just the way every player starts, with the SuperBetter homepage and login. But I had a few extra tools in my chest. I had a background in Roleplaying, Storytelling and Game Creating. Using these tools, I created a world for my SuperBetter journey from the ground up. And in this blog series, I will share a lot of these tips and techniques with whomever wants it. But first, you have to be willing to play.

As adults we’re told so many times that games are for children. People roll their eyes and talk of people wasting their lives in fantasy worlds that accomplish nothing. Now science has come along and proven that there are real benefits found inside the childhood antics of playing games and playacting. This basic principle of SuperBetter is described in helpguide.org:

Play is often described as a time when we feel most alive, yet we often take it for granted and may completely forget about it. But play isn’t a luxury – it’s a necessity. Play is as important to our physical and mental health as getting enough sleep, eating well, and exercising. Play teaches us how to manage and transform our negative emotions and experiences. It supercharges learning, helps us relieve stress, and connects us to others and the world around us. Play can also make work more productive and pleasurable.

For me as a hero and All Star, this was so important. I got to do so much more than my mild-mannered teacher self could. By turning this into a game, rather than just a check list of to do’s and to dont’s, I was able to make myself accomplish things I thought impossible. My willpower skyrocketed. You know why? My game persona would have done those things. The gaming aspect allowed me to step away from myself and do things not because I wanted to, but because my hero self would not take no for an answer. She had the willpower, so would I.

Also, I got much more enjoyment from it when I changed it into a game as it became so much more immersive. When I lost a battle, I knew the war still continued, so I could more easily pick myself up and continue. This is a part of transforming our negatives. I could try again and beat that enemy the next day because it was a part of the game, not just something inside me that I could never get away from. So with this transformation, from reality to game, from me to hero, I was able to move into the next benefit of learning from it and relieving stress. And boy, we can all use that.

Now, if you believe me, let’s get ready to create, grow, learn and relax. Next time around we’ll discuss the importance of the secret identity and how to go about creating it.

Courtney Sloan is a gamer, teacher, storyteller, wife, and mom, as well as an author of dark fantasy, horror, and sci-fi. You can find her story ANTIDOTE FOR THE SOUL in the Gothic Blue Book: The Haunted Edition by Burial Day Books. She was also a Spring 2012 SuperBetter All-Star. Catch up with Courtney on her blog or at @writingtiger on Twitter.

Gameful Design

Two years ago I attended a conference on the emerging field of gamification – or adding game elements to services and applications. Just by giving people a bit of reward, you could incentivize any behavior you wanted — navigating to another page, leaving a comment, learning multiplication.

Others celebrated this silver bullet, but I, as a game designer, was worried. The medium I’d dedicated my life to was reduced to basic behavioral response to stimulus, to operant conditioning, to dolphin training. Click. Cookie. Repeat.

These gamification experts extolled all the superficial, short-term psychological hooks from games and none of the meaningful, metaphysical joy and satisfaction produced from playing. They forgot that players are people.

As we designed SuperBetter, we wanted to prove that games are more than just dopamine injections, that players are more than chemical machines.

SuperBetter offers an alternative to gamification. Instead of taking the psychological hooks and operant conditioning from games, we use their deeply satisfying properties – things like agency, emotion, and immediate feedback – to help people do what they really want to do: feel better, reach their goals, connect with others, and live with meaning. We call this a gameful approach to design.

So, what does this look like in practice? Here are a few key differences in how we approach design. Of course, not everyone who calls themselves a gamification company hits all of these points, but too many do.

We can do better.


Makes you do what companies want you to do

Helps you do what YOU want to do

You play games because it’s what you want to do. No one is telling you to play, no one is giving you money to play, no one is holding a gun to your head making you play. You’re intrinsically motivated. Intrinsic motivation means you take pleasure in the activity itself.

If you don’t want to do something, no amount of awards, badges, leaderboards, or points is going to make you do it – not long term, not sustainably.


Relies on operant conditioning (reward, punishment)

Harnesses the good of games (feedback, agency, emotion)

You don’t actually play games for points or badges– those are just progress indicators that help you contextualize your improvements/skill (which is exciting). People love games because they are in control and can affect the world (this is called agency), because they can make meaningful choices and interesting decisions. They play because games are delightful, challenging, and filled with clear goals. Operant conditioning ignores all of those things, and tries to motivate using our most basic human instincts instead of the complex depth that makes us human.

SuperBetter’s core elements — quests, power-ups, bad guys, and allies — help people feel more in control of their lives and capable of changing them (this is agency). Instead of setting goals for you, we let you choose goals that challenge you, and we make sure you’re creating a toolbox of ways to spark positive emotions in your life while identifying and gaining control over those things that hold you back.


Added to an existing platform, curriculum, or service

Integrated into design from the ground up

All games teach. All play and all fun is learning. If the entirety of a system is “Leave Comment, Get Badge” people will learn that very quickly, and once a system is learned, it loses its charm, its fun, its pleasure. Tack on something like badges or leaderboards, and after an initial engagement spike, the system suddenly becomes a transparently irrelevant annoyance – or worse, an unavoidable reason to leave the site/service altogether.


Uses extrinsic rewards

Uses intrinsic rewards

Rewards only motivate people to get rewards. Here’s a true story about extrinsic rewards: A child with a love for music starts playing the piano. Her mother, wanting to encourage her interest, begins rewarding her every time she plays. When the mother stops rewarding, the child stops playing, her initial curiosity and intrinsic desire to play diminished by the reward system.

Lasting behavior change comes from within. Giving someone cash to do something taints the nature of whatever they do. Even if it’s something they wanted to do, getting a reward for it decreases intrinsic motivation, and actually makes people less likely to perform the behavior without reward. The moment you give someone a reward, you’re decreasing the likelihood of lasting, sustainable change for them.

Intrinsic reward is a fine line and hugely nuanced. In SuperBetter, when players report actions, we increase their Resilience score. But Resilience isn’t a made up thing – it’s not just magical, virtual “points” – it’s a reflection of a very real, validated principle of psychology. You’re rewarded by seeing your progress in an immediate, tangible way, but not by the points themselves. SuperBetter also lets you track changes to your well-being, so over time seeing the difference is its own reward. Most importantly, players are rewarded because as they do these actions, they really do start to feel better and reach their goals.


Limited meaning/social context

Meaningful/customized awards

But wait – didn’t I just say rewards can be bad? There’s a difference between celebrating accomplishment (“award”) and incentivizing actions (“reward”). This is about the former!

Getting an award is a great feeling – when you’ve worked for it. When it feels relevant and special to you. When it represents success at something appropriately challenging. There’s nothing wrong about celebrating accomplishment; it feels great to be recognized for what you’ve done, as long as what you’ve done is actually something worthwhile.

If you go to certain sites you’ll find yourself with random badges for seemingly no reason at all, after just clicking through a few pages (and of course, you have to sign up to keep them). Is that satisfying? (No.)

While we do have a few automatically awarded achievements in SuperBetter, we found the best way to make awards meaningful was to ensure it wasn’t a machine giving them to you. Allies have the option to give achievements to their heroes: to create a title and customize the icon and provide a reason/description for the award. When players get awards from friends, it means something unique to them, their relationship, and their actions. It matters.


Tokenizes social relationships

Creates & strengthens social relationships

In many social games and social services, gates are put onto mechanics that force you to be viral and connect with other players before you’re allowed to continue (for example, you need 3 friends to expand your land in FarmVille). This is tokenizing – or only considering how many connections you have, and not the type, depth, duration, or any number of other facets that make each human relationship unique. Almost every social network game is like this. Even Twitter is like this.

Tokenizing is not actually social. For something to be truly social, the experience of playing has to be different depending on who I’m playing with. Mechanically, social means other people impact the game meaningfully; they’re making interesting decisions and expressive choices too, and my game is unique because of their unique contribution to it.

Again, this comes down to remembering that people are people and not numbers in a DAU or CTR graph or mindless click-machines.

When you invite allies to join you, we ask you to give them a mission – something unique that you need and would be grateful for and something specifically suited to that person’s talents. We also ask that you check in – that is, have a heart to heart or face to face conversation with them – at least once every two weeks. These aren’t just numbers helping you towards some other purpose; the strength of your relationships matters and has a real and measurable effect on your well being. Each friend is a unique ally.


Requires little to no skill

Trains up skills of players’ choosing

This is closely linked to learning a system – when developing skills is seen as learning and mastery can be either knowledge-based or skill-based. Most services that employ gamification aren’t challenging or fun to do. They require no skill. In the tired example of frequent flyer miles, for instance: is it fun to click on a flight scheduler? It is challenging to pick Virgin over Delta? No, of course not.

And believe it or not, we love a good challenge – We just stop caring altogether.

In SuperBetter, YOU choose how you want to improve, and the whole game is about getting stronger. Power Packs are custom tailored to challenges, and focus on different skills across the board: social, physical, emotional, mental. Not challenging enough? Add another Power Pack. Overwhelmed? Take a break, or just do a single move (3 quests, 1 battle, 3 power-ups) a day.


Promote sharing indiscriminately, constantly, to everyone

Promote sharing meaningfully, at major moments, to whom it matters

Gamers are great at tuning out irrelevant information, and if they’re constantly spammed with the same canned messages, they’re not going to get engaged. Novelty is a huge component of engagement (it’s something new to figure out, to learn, to master) and unique content adds value. As much as you can, let players add their own messages, and prompt virality when it matters: when the player has accomplished something difficult, when they’ve expressed something unique, when they’ve really made a difference. And don’t blast it to everyone if it doesn’t apply to them: send it to the people to whom it matters most.


Phew! Long post! Those were just a few examples, but I hope they helped clarify the difference between what most people call gamification and what we consider the “right” way to borrow from games (gameful design). Looking over the list, here are the three key bullets I’d pull out next time you go out and try to design a great experience:

  • Keep it intrinsic
  • Players are people
  • Agency, agency, agency

Now go make it gameful 🙂

All-Star Lukas On Travel and Keeping Up With My Challenge

This is the first in what I hope will be several blog posts about my SuperBetter challenge, to cut sugar out for 30 days (month of March) and then to switch to only having sugar on Sundays for the next two months (at least).

Most of my sugar-free March went really smoothly. I have gotten a lot of practice at doing my 30 days without sugar exercise so I have developed plenty of coping mechanisms. This time around I hardly needed them. I mostly got through with sticking to mealtimes, being vigilant about preparing ahead for meals, and drinking lots of water. I think that this is because since my last attempt, I have actually reduced the amount of sugar I keep around me significantly. However, there’s a big glaring spot in my life where sugar is ALWAYS present at the office. Our office has a wall-o-snacks for the taking (this is some Silicon Valley thing I have never experienced before).  I’d wager at least 60% of the snacks are high in sugar, another 20% medium sweet and then theres a handful of savory things like pretzels, cheese sticks, and V8 thats my triad of workplace snack right there :)

The snacks aside, no-sugar March was cruising along and then Jenny and I went to Mexico for her spring break. We went to Tulum, which is down at the bottom of the Carribean side of Mexico, a place of Mayan ruins and lots of snorkeling.  Mexico (the parts I’ve been to anyway) is a great place to avoid sugar because they don’t seem to do much in the way of deserts.Sure, if I wanted to I could have bought candy at the store before we headed to our out-of-the-way palapa on the beach but since I didn’t, there wasn’t any temptation at all.  When you have a meal there it’s just the meal no desert is offered.

The first four nights of the trip were excellent and full of rest and adventure in equal amounts. I think I really pushed my record for how much time I spent reading in various hammocks. On the fifth night though, I woke up to an unpleasant illness that wiped me out and left me hollow and dehydrated the next day.  Unable to eat (or really want to try eating) any more of the food provided at our resort, I really had no choice but to have a bit of Fanta orange soda so that I’d at least get a little energy.  This was a bit of a bummer to me because not drinking soda is something I’ve really conquered in my life. I’m not going to be too hard on myself though, I was sick and in a strange land.  If I could have been at home I could have made myself dry toast that wasn’t WonderBread or I could have had some chicken broth for energy instead of a soda.The next couple of days were a little bit loose with sugar too because I like to be nice to myself when I’m sick so when we went to the Mayan ruins the next day and the parking lot craziness included a Dairy Queen well, I’m not the kind of person who easily ignores ice cream :)

In the end, I made it to March 29th without having sugar and then when we got home I re-committed to my epic win where I now only have sugar on Sundays. It’s Wednesday now and I’ve got a Canadian chocolate bar in the cupboard waiting for me on Sunday.

If anyone is interested, here are a couple of my tips for traveling when I’m trying to work on my eating:

  • Bring snacks you like and can eat.  I bring dried fruits, jerky, and if I’m eating sugar I bring Clif bars as a breakfast option in case theres nothing good where I’m staying. They are also useful if I’ll be in hotel with a gym so I can eat something right away after working out and avoid impulse purchases of breakfast pastries.
  • Have a reusable water bottle with you. Fill & drink it empty often, especially on the plane. First of all, it keeps you hydrated (and flying is super dry) but also it helps you feel full and less likely to impulse-shop in the airport gift shop or duty free both of which taunt you with massive amounts of chocolate and candy.
  • Buy a salad (or a sandwich if no salads are appealing) in the airport to take on the plane. Most of the airline food will have sugar in it or sugary parts to the snacks included.  It’s incredibly hard to resist eating while bored/full on a plane because it’s already such an altered state and planes don’t really sell salad.

Thats all for this post, thanks for reading.

 Lukas is one of our Spring 2012 All-Stars.  You can watch Lukas, and the other All-Stars, share his journey through video blogs on our YouTube channel.

Your Awesomeness Is the Backbone of Everything I Write

Here are the two most crucial things that I want you to learn from me today. Nope, I won’t make you sit quietly, study endlessly, or toil for years until you’ve earned the right to hear it. You don’t need to be ready. I’ll just tell you now:

1. I champion and celebrate your desire, dear Hero, to change and evolve as much as you want to. And you do not need to be fixed. No matter what your situation, challenge, or condition, there’s nothing wrong with you. You are blazingly fantastic, whole, and perfect down to your core. You’re doing such an excellent job of being you.

I know that some of us out there are genuinely sick, have suffered life-shattering injuries, or are hurtling more quickly towards death than others. Some of our bodies are in greater stages of perpetual crisis, with very real implications to live with. Some of our minds tend towards the darker and more painful shades of reality. Some of us are stuck in habits and patterns that no longer serve, ones that we want to dramatically change. Some of us need help just facing the day.

I’m a huge advocate for positive change and for receiving help and support. That’s why I write Power Packs and believe so much in games like SuperBetter. I’ve contended with my own emotional demons, physical conditions, and strange but tenacious habits of self-sabotage. I know that given the right physical care, social food, mental air, and emotional watering, we humans can flourish in ways that astound and inspire me. There are real habits and practices we can do to positively enhance our lives.

But I need you to know that underneath and all around whatever challenges you’re facing right now—you are AWESOME. You’re awesome despite your challenges, sure; but you’re also awesome because of them. They are what lead you here after all. Let’s take a moment to thank them for that.

That’s one of my goals as a Power Pack writer for SuperBetter: to offer up tools and suggestions for transforming a life by using and accepting exactly what we’ve got.

Another is to support positive change in a way that focuses more on the adventure than on the destination. Which leads us to crucial point number two:

2. You win the game by playing it, not by finishing it. Finishing this game of life means you’ve died. Hopefully when we do reach the finish line (even if it comes sooner than we hoped), we have a sense that we used the time we had here to greatest advantage for ourselves and for others.

This means we’re beyond self-improvement, folks. We’re past that false notion that there’s somewhere static and tangible to get to—and if we could just get to that perfected state then we’d be golden, our problems solved, and money would start raining down from the sky. We’d have “won the game,” so to speak.

I don’t think so. I’m not sure how the myth of arrival got set up in the first place, but let me offer an example of how ridiculous it really is: I’ve been breathing my whole life,” an man says eagerly to you on the train home, and I’ve worked hard at it. Any day now I’ll have perfected it and then I’ll be done with it altogether! I mean, I’ve mastered it—so I won’t have to do it anymore, right?”


Perfected, mastered breathing obviously doesn’t imply that we stop breathing. Anything but. It might mean breathing has become easier or more flowing. That there’s enjoyment with each breath, or that I can now use my breath to alleviate pain or calm nerves; to connect with others and be fully alive in this world. But I don’t stop. No, as long as I’m alive I never stop breathing. Instead, I use breathing as a tool in the tool kit that I reach into when I need support, want to increase my enjoyment or sense of purpose, or want to ramp up my resilience. It’s a tool I can use on my journey of life, one that can make the journey easier and more fun.

The same is true for personal evolution and growth. “Winning the game” of positive change, living up to our potential, and moving towards our dreams—the game of being SuperBetter—isn’t about reaching the finish line and then being fanned in a golden chair for the rest of your life. (I love golden chairs and being fanned, fyi—just under different circumstances.) It’s not about the finish line. It’s about playing the game and playing it well, to the best of our current abilities. It’s about being the Hero in our own never-ending adventure. In the game of life, we don’t always defeat the dragon and then rest on our laurels. Instead we discover all the ways there are to defeat dragons then practice our favorite techniques so that next time the dragon pops up, we can kick some ass.

Or have learned to speak Dragon.

Or whip out a saddle so we can dragon-ride off into the sunset for a while.

This is what sits at the foundation of my creating and writing of Power Packs. Your awesomeness, Hero, is the backbone of everything I write. I run every Quest, Power-up, and Bad Guy through the awesome filter. Heck, I run every sentence through that filter. I ask myself: does this sentence help bring out the inner gem in my Hero? Does it encourage positive change while not making my Hero feel inadequate for not being there yet? When a Hero reads my words, does she relax and think, “I can do this! I can totally do this”? I strive to push my Heroes towards greater freedom, aliveness, and resilience by believing to my core that each and every one of you is already there. My job isn’t to change you, fix or redeem you, but to expose you to ideas, tools, and concepts that you can use for your own empowerment, that you can use to reveal and express more of who and what you already are: which is mind-blowingly, staggeringly, oh-my-God-I-can-hardly-see-because-of-the-blinding-light incredible.

Want a closer look at what goes into creating Power Packs? Stay tuned for my next installment!

As the creator, developer, and writer of Power Packs, Bez Maxwell brings to SuperBetter an inexhaustible delight in written words, creativity that won’t turn off, and a vast amount of compassion and care for humanity’s emotional welfare. She’s passionate about pushing limits while also loving and appreciating what is, and fiercely values both the ecstatically joyous and the unpleasantly dark aspects of the human experience. Bez is a Stanford-educated professional writer and Certified Life and Relationship Coach trained in transparent communication, emotional wisdom, and playful problem solving for individuals, couples, and businesses.

You can reach her at bez [at] superbetter [dot] com



Player blog: Charlie slays his dragons

We are thrilled to have a guest post from All-Star Charlie, who tells the story of how he overcame a history of depression and anxiety to achieve his Epic Win!

I have been battling depression and anxiety for much of my life, and have had my good days and bad days with it. I still do. The thing is that I never have had the confidence to really face it head on, and in a way SuperBetter allowed me to take the first steps to do just that. I really lucked out finding out about SuperBetter. I had read Jane McGonigal’s book Reality is Broken, and saw her present the keynote at PAX East. After watching her talk, I tried to keep tabs on what new projects she was starting, and then she made mention of something called SuperBetter. Not really knowing what it was, I blindly signed up for the chance to be an All-Star.

After applying I have to admit I was scared to death. What had I gotten myself into, was I really ready to try to take on something of this magnitude, would I really come out of the experience becoming SuperBetter? Then I thought, there’s no way they’d pick me, I’m sure there are others out there who probably should be the spotlight, but then I got the e-mail. My heart jumped. I was excited and anxious, but I did all that they asked me, and officially became an All-Star.

When I first logged in I was overwhelmed, and slightly lost. I tried to set it up just like I do with any MMO (massively multi-player online game): find a way to solo through this “game”. The problem is that in order to really get SuperBetter you’re going to need help. This isn’t something that you can simply do alone. Sure there are degrees of help required, but in my opinion you need a couple of allies to help lift you up when you’ve fallen short (or at least when you feel like you’ve done so.)

For my Epic Win, I chose to tackle talking to two complete strangers (I’m terrified to talk people I don’t know simply because somewhere in the back of my mind I feel like I’m going to be laughed at, or maybe criticized for opening my mouth) at a Game Developer meetup in Atlanta. The biggest obstacle that became abundantly clear from the start was scheduling. I will fully admit that there were several times where I could have gotten it done early, but decided to do something else that day so I could say to myself, “darn, it’s just not going to work for me this month.” Then a funny thing happened. I found out I was going to be a dad, and that we were going to need to get ourselves a house.

Now, if I thought talking to game developers (a community that I can actually hold my own in) was scary, talking to realtors, contractors, civil engineers, and more is outright the scariest thing I would ever have to do in my life. Somehow though, I found the courage, guts, and confidence to take all of those on, and I think held my own. So in a way I over-shot my original Epic Win by doing something I found much more difficult.

There was a piece of me who thought that that would be sufficient, that I would be okay not accomplishing my “true” Epic Win, but there was always a part of me who knew I had to still take it on. My biggest Bad Guy through this experience has been my Negative Self-Confidence, the true “demon” that stands in my way when I try to accomplish anything, or I try to set out to do something I’ve never done before. That guy has been the bane of my existence, and to this day I continue to battle him. It is not something I can easily put behind me, but somehow through the SuperBetter experience, and a lot of singing my lungs out (my favorite power-up, by the way), I gained ground on him and even beat him in battle a couple of times.

So that leads me to May 15th, a “final” attempt to accomplish my Epic Win before my All-Star experience comes to an end. I almost didn’t go. I found the perfect excuse, I thought: May 15th was Diablo III release day. I told myself that no one was going to show up, and that I hadn’t had a chance to really spend time with my wife this week with all the house stuff. Those thoughts and more floated through my head all day. I think without my lovely wife (my biggest and best ally) basically telling me to go, and that she’ll be alright if I’m gone for a couple of hours, I would have stayed home and found yet another excuse to miss out on a chance to accomplish my goal. But she pushed me in the right direction, and I battled rush hour traffic to make it to the meet up.

I arrived and went straight for the pizza and coke, and found a place to nervously consume my beverage and food, my eyes darting all over the room, hoping that someone would just come to me and say hello (you see that’s the wierd thing about me, I’m petrified of trying to make first contact.) But it never happened. After eating every small bite of my pizza until there was nothing left, I had to make a choice. I had to decide if I was going to go through with my Epic Win, or was I going to walk away quietly like I got an emergency text on my phone, or something along those lines.

Thankfully, after throwing away my trash, I spotted someone looking as nervous as I felt sitting by himself. His name was Jamal. I put my hand out, shook it, introduced myself as Charlie, and started chit-chatting about the industry, and what he did. Soon enough another person came to sit down and listen. I turned to that person introduced myself, found out his name was Justin, and we continue to talk amongst the three of us for a bit until another person joined in (sadly I didn’t catch his name). An hour or so passed and the meet up seemed to be dying down, so I made for the door, got in my car, and headed home. I blasted my favorite songs all the way home, singing until I couldn’t sing any more. When I got home I fired up my PC, logged onto SuperBetter, and claimed my victory.

There is part of me who wants to say with that I have conquered what I’m trying to get SuperBetter from, but in reality this is just the first step. There are so many more to take, and to be honest even if I move away from the site, I will continue to strive to be SuperBetter. If I can do that, I think the world could be filled with endless possibilities. It is through this SuperBetter experience that I learned that I’ve got a support system that can be there for me, and that there is a way to conquer a ton of my fears and doubts if I’m only willing to give it a go.


– Charlie
AKA: Altered Confusion


Charlie is one of our Spring 2012 All-Stars. You can watch Charlie, and the other All-Stars, share his journey to this Epic Win victory through video blogs on our YouTube channel.